Are You There?
A relationship assessment quiz adapted from the book "Hold me tight" by Dr. Sue Johnson. Dr. Sue Johnson is the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
The acronym A.R.E. stands for Accessible, Responsive, and Engaged.
Accessibility
Can I reach you? Accessibility is more than just being in the same room together. It's about being open to one another and paying attention to one another, even when distractions like phones and social media compete for attention.
Responsiveness
Responsiveness is about being able to rely on your partner to interact with you on an emotional level in both good situations and bad. Do they care when you get bad news and know how to soothe you? Can they celebrate with you in good times?
Engagement
Engagement encompasses those feelings of knowing that your partner is attracted to you, values you, and wants to be involved with you. It gives you the message that you are valued and that you matter.
The following test can be used to gauge how accessible, responsive, and engaged you are with your partner.
Answer each question by selecting Disagree, Neutral, or Agree
Question 1 of 15
How accessible your partner is to you